First, allow me to say that I am not a doctor. I have no certifications and the only thing that makes me qualified to speak on these topics is my personal life experiences.
The past few years of my life have been about learning to be sure in myself and being happy with myself. As I learn each day I feel the need to share my knowledge with others.
Self-awareness seems like a deep subject but in all actuality becoming self-aware is being honest with yourself about everything.
I’ve wrote out two definitions and also cited them so you can look deeper if you choose.
Self-Awareness – acknowledging the different variety of you including set behaviors, traits, and emotions.VeryWellMind
Self-Love – the practicing of action(s) that are genuine and beneficial to your emotional, physical, and mental well-being.LoveEveryFlaw
Pointing out different behavior patterns within yourself helps with the self-awareness process. This is a simple but difficult task since people have a habit of wanting to justify everything.
Justification is rarely a good thing. It is easy to think if I had good reasons to do “this” then the results do not matter.
On the contrary, the results will always matter, you just may not notice it right away.
While in college I have had about 10 jobs in 3 years.
Each time that I left a job it was because work was getting overwhelming with classes. Then when my funds got low I’d hurry and grab a new one.
A few failed exams later, I had to take a step back and evaluate the common denominator, me.
My issue at hand is the fact that I did not have much financial support while in College. That’s fine, everyone has different home situations and that was not in my control.
What I could not see was the bigger issue at hand that was in my control.
The fact is I did not properly maximize my time. Instead, I blamed one thing on the other.
While working and going to school is difficult. It is not impossible. I should have been experimenting with the number of hours worked and invested in my University.
This way I could make money consistently and better myself. I justified me not being a good worker at my jobs at times, and slacking in classes.
The importance of being self-aware is knowing what areas you need help in.
After some reflecting, I became aware that I lack time management skills.
In the experience I shared with you it took five rules to help me understand something about myself. Keep reading to learn the five rules and see how you can implement them in your own life.
Rule #1: Clear Your Head
As an anxious person, I think about every possible outcome of a situation before going any further. If the results are stressful I will choose not to go through with anything.
Taking a break to breathe, find some peace, and clear your head helps you to focus your attention on what matters. In this instance, improving your emotional well-being is your priority.
Rule #2: Be Honest
As an ex-people pleaser, who sometimes falls back into that behavior, I find it hard to deal with my feelings. Sometimes I feel guilty for feeling a way because I know X, Y, Z would not like that.
Other times my emotions do not align with my personal beliefs so I still feel guilty.
In both instances, I am judging myself and denying an opportunity, to be honest.
Honesty is the first step to healing.
Rule #3: Understand You’re Not Perfect
As the oldest child in my home, I am held at a different bar than my brother who is a year younger. I have been expected to be responsible, help-out, and be a role model. Those were my pressures.
Take a moment to think of your own. I know they can be overwhelming at times.
Remind yourself that you’re not perfect and you can always make improvements.
As a stubborn individual, it is hard for me to let things be. Knowing that I mess up and make mistakes is a hard pill to swallow.
However, each time that I do I learn something new about myself.
Life is about learning, growing and changing. Accepting things for what they are at that moment allows you to make a decision.
Either boss up and make some changes or suck it up and deal with it.
Rule #5: Reflect
As an overthinker, this is one of my favorite things to do.
Reflecting done correctly allows you to look at a situation from multiple ways to better understand it. Looking back on my work-school relationship in the past I thought it was about making more money or doing better for my future.
Reflecting now I see it was more about priorities, planning, and asking for help.
Each of these five rules allows you to investigate yourself.
I found that each time I learn more about me I am happier with myself. It allows me to know something else about me and now when I’m interacting with people I feel a bit more confident in myself. That’s the benefit of knowing who I am.
Self-Awareness can only happen to those who are ready, to be honest. Self-Love is being happy with things that we badly want to change and then investing the time to do that.
Love Every Flaw