The first line of defense from the outside world is your skin. It protects you daily and in return should be celebrated.
Skin is the world’s first opportunity to judge your individuality. It represents you consistently and in return should be pampered. The skin you are in should be loved and that begins with comfortability.
When I first began openly addressing my insecurities one of the first things I did was change my use of words. ‘Love Every Flaw,’ was strategically chosen to trigger and instruct me to do just that.
Those words helped me build back my confidence. This journey has taught me that genuine confidence takes practice and time.
Today, I use ‘Love Every Flaw,’ as the name of my brand to encourage anyone that comes across it to do the same. Flaws are different for everyone and each stage in life presents a new one.
If you spend your time bathing in hate of the things you want to change you might find yourself unhappy and stuck.
Be Comfortable In Your Own Skin.
Skin in the above phrase does not have to be literal you can substitute it for anything that you lack confidence in. Take some of the below phrases as examples:
- Be comfortable in your own mind.
- Be comfortable in your own creations.
- Be comfortable in your own talents.
Key Point: Being comfortable with things the way they are is important in building confidence. Reality gives us a fair measurement to judge ourselves and pushes us to do better.
Confidence is knowing who you are. When you lack confidence it means one of a few things.Tyshiana Johnson
- You do not know who you are.
- You do not like who you are.
Luckily, no one is forced to stay the same. At any given time in your life, you can choose to change. Hopefully, the changes you make are improvements from your past.
In a church service, a preacher said something that my mom and I talk about often. ‘When we make the mistake of comparing, competing, and compromising ourselves we block our blessings.’
Blessings are interpreted differently by everyone. I believe people who are confident in themselves find more blessings in their lives than someone who does not.
Stop Blocking Your Blessing: Be Comfortable In Your Skin.
This takes the most beautiful person that you know to achieve. I’m talking about you and if you are unable to see that I will share a few secrets that can help.
Rid Toxic + Draining Company
Family, friends, co-workers, peers you name it are not always good company. People can suck the energy from you without you recognizing. Usually, we are unaware because:
- We like being around them.
- We are used to being around them.
- We do not want to be alone.
People are built to need the company of others. Typically, we value the opinions of the company we keep often because we hear it a lot.
When building comfortability in yourself it is important to be around people who will let you do that without judgement.
Think about who you are around most of the time and make a list of names. Now, think of your conversations.
- Can you openly say what is on your mind?
- Are you being listened to?
- Do they respect your views?
If the answer is ‘no’ to any of my questions it is time to set some boundaries. The way I see it you have one of two options in order to really grow your confidence.
- Try To Break Those Habits.
- depending on the importance and history of the relationship, you can decide if your time is worth being spent opening up about your relationship.
- Throw That Person In the GARBAGE.
- Some things can not be salvaged, that is fine. Maybe, my choice of words are a bit much for you. As an alternative set some distance until you feel free to be you.
- Make sure to communicate with them first. They might be unaware.
Spend More Time Doing What You Like
Being selfish can be healthy. When it is we call it self-care.
It is through healthy selfishness that you start to care less about the opinions of others.
When you start to realize the true happiness you can have. The risk of losing it because someone thinks painting is ‘wack’ becomes out of the question.
We like things because of a few reasons.
- We are good at them.
- They bring us peace.
- They bring us comfort.
Investing more time into things that we like will only make you better, bring even more peace and comfort.
Think about your interest and why do you like it so much? Now, imagine that feeling x100.
Side Note: If what you like is damaging yourself or someone. I suggest replacing it with a different activity.
When you find comfort in your individuality the other areas in life will be a lot easier to manage.
Talk To Your People (Family + Friends)
We have recognized who might not be that healthy for us at the moment. Take a minute to think of the people that may fit in the following categories:
- Always root for you.
- Know how to love you.
- Consistently respect you.
Talk with them about the things you like, your goals and fears. Listen for their feedback you never know how someones words may help.
I have gained the wisdom to understand we can not do everything alone. Even if we could, the benefits are better enjoyed with others.
Having a relevant opinion can change things for you in a good way. When I talk to family and friends about business ideas I often find a new way to do or build on something.
Side Note: I recommend talking with others about topics that you have your own opinion about first. This way the conversation is about getting a different perspective and not someone making your mind up for you.
Write About Yourself
I constantly preach about journaling.
Monitoring your feelings is a way to track your progress which will be helpful later in life.
Writing your feelings down allows you to be honest with yourself. Not everything has to be heard by others.
Writing about yourself builds comfortability with your thoughts because no one can dismiss them.
Build Up Your Confidence and Be Comfortable In Your Skin!
- Stop comparing yourself to people because you do not know their circumstances.
- Stop competing with people and start competing with your past.
- Stop compromising yourself because it will only keep you from your greatness!
Love Every Flaw