Our current world allows us to see everything at any time thanks to social media.
We share the accomplishments of others and have discussions about how they could have improved all the while we are neglecting to invest in ourselves.
I want to encourage you to take a step back from scrolling through social media, sharing the accomplishments of others and determine what success is to you.
Got it? Great.
Now that we have that established I want you to take a minute to establish goals.
Know What You Want.
Goal setting is more than saying you’re going to start a clothing line. It is saying that you will start a clothing line that is inclusive for all women.
In the example given above the difference between the two was specifics. Knowing what you want is implied by the details given.
Research shows that specific goals are more likely to be achieved than general ones.
When setting goals they need to be things that you can achieve.
I can set a goal to get 100 blog post shares by the end of the week.
However, I do not have 100 people consistently reading my posts so how could I expect 100 people to share my blog posts?
Often people confuse being realistic as a negative thing. We should understand that being realistic builds self-esteem because once we achieve those goals we have the motivation to accomplish more.
Know-How to Be Intentional.
The best way to determine if you are being intentional is by looking at your actions.
For months I would talk my mom and brother ear’s off about how I wanted to start a blog. One day my mom said, “Girl, you better stop talking to me about this blog and do it.”
I laughed so hard because I did not realize how annoying I was being but it gave me the push I needed to get started.
If you want something you need to make sure everything that you are doing aligns with your end goals.
Having a goal to be a blogger was cute but not having a blog was just silly.
I hate to be the one to tell you but it does not take 21 days to form a habit.
It takes consistency and specific cues to make something stick. You can read more about that here .
Think about the most routine thing that you do. It could be getting coffee in the morning before work or class. It could be watching your favorite tv show a certain day out the week.
Whatever habit you have I’m almost certain you do not need anyone to tell you to do it. It is natural and almost automatic.
Use that same energy to build positive behaviors that will help you be successful.
E.G. If you want to improve your health you may start grocery shopping differently. Cooking meals or heading to the gym at a certain time.
In that example, I provided specific behaviors that encouraged consistency.
Learning to be consistent will also allow you to be a help to someone else in the future. Now you can achieve your goals and share your experience.
How amazing is that?
Know Your Flaws.
News flash. You are not perfect. The good news is no one is. One of the best things I could have done was learn to take constructive criticism from people who CARE about me.
Knowing that I can be a procrastinator, hard of listening, and overbook myself gave me things to watch for.
Think about recent situations that you were in that went negatively and self-reflect. Could it be you do not take advice well? Do you talk negatively about yourself?
Knowing your flaws and actively work on improving them is a key way to set yourself up for success.
Be Kind to Yourself.
The best part about being human is knowing that everyone learns differently and we all will make mistakes.
Try not to beat yourself up when things do not go as planned. Everything is an experience.
Show yourself the kindness you would want another to show you.
Now, go and be great!
Love Every Flaw